"If you go around expecting or looking for the worst, you will surely find it."
A few years ago, a young adult was always griping and complaining about all the negative things going on in his life. We were at work and I looked at him, saying the exact phrase above. I don't remember where I heard it, but he admitted that it was good advice. Whether he took it or not, I will never know. But the truth of that statement rings loud and clear because it is much easier to find deficits in everything and everyone instead of the good things.
How did this come to be in society?
For starters, the old adage - 'Misery loves company' - comes to mind. It has always baffled me how many out there are simply NOT happy unless everyone is miserable. That is 100% negative thinking. There is so much more to life than meets the eye and learning how to turn negatives into positives isn't something most people think about. It is too easy to let oneself get caught up in the emotional turmoil of drama and chaos.
The challenge is not external. It is internal. Once we realize that external energies are highly addictive, we can break that bond with them through a number of techniques. Prayer works well for me and many others I know in the spiritual community. Have a coworker, friend, or relative that always seems to want to dump their drama onto you? That will undoubtedly lead to unnecessary stress and suck you into a rabbit hole of negativity.
What do you do?
If you chose to hang around and listen, try listening for something positive in what they are saying. It is there. Good listening skills will reveal the positive aspect and you can capitalize on that. One great example is when someone is complaining about rejection. Rejection is not a bad thing. If rejection occurs, it is simply one door that closes so another door can open. I look at it as God protecting us from something that isn't meant to be.
But where is the positivity in rejection?
Whatever was included in the things leading up to the rejection can teach us something new about ourselves. For example, a company interviews you and you don't get the job. Fine. You can take the lesson of the experience and figure out what you can use to your benefit for the next interview.
There is always something to be learned in every experience that can be used to your advantage for the next opportunity. That is turning a negative into a positive. When we practice turning negatives into positives, it becomes a natural habit and our outlook on life changes for the better. Our mental health naturally improves and we learn to tell negativity to take a hike.
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