Here are some testimonials from survivors and followers of my teachings. When dealing with narcissistic abuse, cognitive dissonance is a challenge to overcome, but not impossible.
Sometimes it takes a consultant who is an expert in the trauma associated with narcissism and cognitive dissonance to help you sort it all out.
Understanding cognitive dissonance becomes easier when explained in its simplicity, although there are many components to this spiritual battle we are facing on a daily basis.
J.A. "How Michelle has helped me.
Well, first of all, I would like to explain what I was dealing with and how it affected me so that all can see where I came from.
I have a neighbor that lives 250 feet give or take across the street and over from me that was a covert narc. And he is a master gas lighter, manipulator, and exceeded boundaries in terms of pestering me to walk (which seems to be the main thing of his control).
But it was even beyond that. In summary, he did all that. Made me feel more and more uncomfortable. He also manipulated 2 situations that cost me money. One in which was with a bike he had me ride at night with brakes not working (let alone putting my life in danger) it had a further thing break while riding and dramatized and guilt-tripped to the point I offered to pay and give him 170 ish dollars for something I never should have. He also promised me he was going to a sporting event (prior to me getting the tickets in which each ticket including his was 110 dollars and he manipulated and like last minute not to go leaving me losing 110 dollars although I didn’t give him the money. But it still cost me. luckily someone went but they could not pay but the point is he cost me money.
He was also a very creepy individual and stalkerish. But the pestering stuff, he even did it when I was at someone’s funeral when I was at a company golf outing all day and one time when I was visiting a friend an hour away as exampled. After no response he stopped in front of my home when I pulled out I went around and he followed me. He also spied on me, and one other time he sent a message as ran by our houses, “I see you running.” Very creepy.
So throughout all this, it became so toxic I was unable to enjoy anything I did. I would greatly alter my habits to not be seen by him. I would even go in the garage when getting home and close it and enter the garage entry door through the attached garage every day as well as when leaving. I would wait til 11 pm to snow plow so it was dark out, I would go to various malls to walk instead of around the neighborhood for a while. When I finally got back out again, I literally had neighbors 10 houses down on my street who knew me and my normal habits tell me their next-door neighbors were worried something happened to me. This is what this toxic behavior led to.
So that is a starting point.
Now, I did 8 years ago experience a covert narc before. A female that I liked who made me think she liked me but would do the old carrot and stick, but again, it wasn’t just some cute girl using me, I could have handled that but the vindictive nature and unpredictably of the nastiest things anyone ever said to me, I always walked on egg shells. So I spent 3 years 10 hours a day straight learning about narcissism and what to do. And even with that, this threw me for a loop, however, it helped me recognize it within 4 months instead of 1 or 2 years.
But at the time I was trying to figure out what to do about this. How to handle this. I once again watched many YouTube videos, read a lot. And this time I so happened to find Michelle’s (YouTube) channel. And while I had a few other youtube people coving the subject who would answer posts here and there, Michelle would actually always respond and be personal. So over time, I got to have real true conversations with her and that was so helpful. She even did a 1.5 or so hour Livestream on this guy that is up on her channel. I then decided to think back from age 20- now, nearly 30 years, and started to realize the other narcs in my life. There are about 7-8 others in various forms, various situations, relations, etc.. so she did lives on all of them too. But beyond all this, through our good conversations about this, she helped me discover certain things that were likely happening that I wasn’t even aware of.
Due to her own experience in her past which she often speaks of with her own narc psychopaths, she has learned an amazing amount of technology. In this case, she helped me realize this neighbor planted a blue tooth on me at one point, although the alarm bells wen toff when I said a specific phrase when no one was anywhere near me at night, and it was cold 1 mile plus from home. And 15 minutes before I got home a text showed up using that exact phrase from a random number, plus it knew my name.
But things like that, she helped me also figure out a lot of tactics. I had hunches but she really helped me see it full on. But also keeps me focused on healing. And given the situation, that was very difficult since he lives right there and is a stalker or semi-stakler at least. But I began to feel better and healthier and she helped me shift my way of thinking about them to make it easier to deal with. And so that has really helped. I am not 100% there since I am still very bothered having them live 200 or so feet away but I am 98-99 percent there and feel way healthier."
B.R. " I layed motionless in bed for FIVE days and nights. My room was dark the whole time despite the sun being out. Dark, very dark. A darkness I can’t explain. My nex had officially murdered my heart and soul. I was dead.
I received a lot of texts from friends and family and at the end of the fifth day, I found a burst of energy and clicked on a text that took me to a music video of ‘Way Worker’. When that ended, I turned my head to my right and said out loud: ‘Jesus, I will never move forward without Your help’.
I finally and weakly dragged myself out of that bed. I frantically and desperately researched trying to understand. Because somehow I knew it wasn’t me. Somehow I KNEW the destruction and abuse hadn’t come from inside of ME.
I ended up on Quora. I spent hours reading. But some posts were contradictory and some things didn’t fit my situation. Through Divine Intervention, I ended up on Michelle’s Ministry. It all finally clicked… it just made sense. Her ministry is the only one that is logical: all the pieces of the puzzle come together.
It was a hard ‘spanking by God’ to quote one of my friends. But beforehand? I wasn’t listening. And God needed me to wake up. It was the only way. The old me needed to die to be awakened.
I have never felt such a sense of peace in my entire life, as I do today. And despite everything I went through, I am thankful for it as it has given me a deep relationship with my Lord. I am grateful for Michelle’s guidance throughout this journey of enlightenment and salvation.
She is a spiritual Chef. My nex obliterated my cake and Michelle showed me how to bake a better one using God’s recipe."
J.M. "What the reviewer said is exactly why I feel you are so effective in your work, because you don’t bog people down with clinical terms. You really are so encouraging and make it all so easy to comprehend. Little light bulbs keep going off each time I listen to one of your videos. Oftentimes I will listen to them more than once and right away for a second time. Sometimes a third!! It’s crazy to me just how much there is to really let hit our minds so that we can truly grasp it all.
It is also such a blessing because it keeps me in self-checking mode always. Repentance is beautiful!! I see the ways in which I had become a broken and toxic person by default of all the abuse and gaslighting, belittling and gossiping. I used to be so angry and so sooooooo sad. I hated myself because I was conditioned to. But I knew deep down inside I was actually just a very joyful person and wanted to be my true self. I just was never given the space or acceptance to. I think it was the biggest blessing even though it hurt, was to overhear those things they said about me, they didn’t think I would ever hear.
But all that to say it’s led me to this place of awakening and learning and not being afraid to have the Lord and his vessels awaken me further to my own faults and wrong way of being."
Note: The reviewer that is mentioned here is the editorial reviewer, which can be located in the description of the book titled "Real Events of Narcissistic Abuse: Someone's Survival Guide," on this website under "My Books." And the videos this survivor is referring to are those on the YouTube channel.
S.N. “Great post! Cognitive Dissonance or more simply put, confusion almost destroyed me. Massive confusion (CD) kept me in an abusive marriage for 32 years. I look forward to reading, learning, and sharing in your space.”
G.W. “Thank you for that, you're the 1st person that cleared it up for me! Confusion.. that makes it so much easier to understand! I've been gaslighted and confused my entire life but trying to get my head straight now. It's amazing how much more clarity and healing power you can have when you're away from your abuser!”
J.S. “Thank you, Michelle! I just found your Space and am grateful for the platform. At 2 weeks short of 59 years of age, I'm beginning to become aware of CD as it's contributed to my complex PTSD. Thank you, I look forward to learning.”
C.Y. “I so appreciate you creating this space, after reading what you wrote my heart and soul just knew it was something I needed to be a part of, especially as I am on my healing journey, in hopes to help others once I feel qualified to do so…much love & light to you, & Thank you.”
M. “Wow never heard of this! It’s exactly what I have done in order to function in the elusive fake relationship I was in with my ex narc. Knowledge is powerful and very healing, it explains so much! Love Quora! so insightful now that I think back on that toxic relationship and toxic coworkers! It’s all making sense! Thanks so much for taking the time to educate us! it’s so healing!🤍.”
And then learning how narcissism is the work of the devil brings its own challenges to overcome.
J.T. “Thank you for this space Michelle. I am a firm believer that Narcs are demonic. I'm SO glad you have opened people's eyes to see the truth in these toxic relationships.”
B.L. “I am so grateful to have found this space, thank you for creating and for all of the incredibly valuable information here. I am looking forward to what is to come! God Bless!”
N.M. “Thank you for inviting me. Much appreciated as the platform introduces you to so much information from people who experience narcissist. I try to tell people around me about NPD but they don't want to hear or believe it. They are just not ready. SAD.”
As more people continue to wake up from the brain fog associated with cognitive dissonance and reconnect with their spiritual body, narcissism as the devil's game suddenly makes sense.
Working all that out is key to finding inner peace and happiness that lies inside the Kingdom of God that is already within you!
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