Overcoming Trauma Responses

Trauma responses are many when healing from narcissist abuse and trauma. We must learn to overcome trauma responses so the evildoers no longer get a power trip thinking they have any illusion of control over our emotions. Trauma responses give narcissists the illusion that we are still easily triggered when in reality, we were just responding normally to an abnormal circumstance. 

A significant part of trauma healing is understanding that we are responding normally to an abnormal situation. The crazy-making of narcissism is anything but normal and we learn that narcissists want us to respond to their abuse in very specific ways that will give them an illusion of control over us. Of course that illusion of control is part of their spiritual wickedness in high places. We learn to stop responding to their shenanigans once we realize what trauma responses they are looking for. 

When we become aware of our trauma responses, we can take the necessary steps to overcome the triggers that prompted a specific trauma response. For example, responding defensively to something someone said to you about you or someone else is a reflection of the need to defend yourself. We can overcome feeling as if we need to defend ourselves by learning to stop taking what others say personally. After all, a narcissist's behavior is a reflection of them and not us. 

Another trauma response is when we think we need to explain ourselves as if what we said wasn't clear enough already. The reason we find ourselves doing this until we learn it is a trauma response is because narcissists would often give us a blank stare that we misinterpreted as "go on, I'm listening." Now we know better because narcissists don't ever listen even though they hear us. The devil and his flying monkey love getting a trauma response from us because it fuels their ego-driven world. 

Trauma responses stem from trauma triggers! Once we overcome trauma triggers, we stop responding with trauma responses. A common one many of us can relate to is saying "sorry" for absolutely no reason, especially while shopping at a store and somehow we feel responsible for interrupting the "traffic flow." You can learn more about saying "sorry" for no reason in this video to help you understand more about this trauma response. Once aware of apologizing for no reason, we learn to say "excuse me" instead when by passing other shoppers in a store, for example. 

Trauma triggers are many, as stated often, and each one comes with a trauma response that is expected by a narcissist who is trying to get a negative emotional reaction from us. Once we identify the tiggers and learn to stop responding, we overcome a significant portion of our traumas! When a narcissist can no longer get a trauma response from us, they must move on and leave us alone. They will have no choice. 

There are many ways to know when you are fully healed from trauma and learning how to stop responding or reacting to the pokes and prods of narcissists is just one of many ways you know you are healing. Learn more about how to know what you are fully healed from trauma in this YouTube Playlist, How to Know When You are Fully Healed! Love and light, always.