Healing from Trauma Conditioning

One of many things we learn about trauma healing is overcoming trauma responses but where do those stem from? We are trauma conditioned to say and do things that will give narcissists the illusion we are insecure and unsure of ourselves. Such illusions give narcissists an ego stroke and oftentimes, we are not unsure or insecure, we just didn't know not to say those things or ask those questions...

Trauma conditioning goes deep because it is embedded in our subconscious mind and the process begins the moment we are born into this fallen world. We are conditioned to tolerate the abuse as our nervous system undergoes various attacks to keep us off balance spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally. Narcissistic abuse is not always physical but when it is, the physical abuse only ads insult to injury regarding traumatization and trauma conditioning. 

We all developed coping skills for dealing with various aspects of trauma from narcissistic abuse over the years and it takes time to overcome them. Overcoming trauma conditioning begins with awareness of the conditioning that stems from trauma responses. When we realize that saying "sorry" for no reason is a trauma response, we can then work on overcoming saying "sorry" when the more appropriate term is "excuse me." We were conditioned to apologize for every little thing that wasn't our fault and that had nothing to with us. 

A great example is in the grocery store where we would say "sorry" just because another shopper was trying to pass by with their cart. Another trauma response that stems from conditioning is feeling the need to defend yourself for no reason. Narcissists have a way of causing us to think we must defend ourselves over things they perceive as "wrong" or imperfect. We learn to overcome the need to defend ourselves because there is nothing wrong with us in the eyes of God. 

We spent our whole lives trying to appease these narcissists because of trauma conditioning and that is what they like; for us to continue responding to their trauma-filled shenanigans. Anyone interested in learning how to know when you are fully healed from trauma can do so in CHA's YouTube playlist all about knowing when you are fully healed. Once you are fully healed from trauma you will not be trauma bonded to the world anymore. Once healed from trauma, you are healed from trauma conditioning and this makes it easier to stop using trauma responses! 

Remember to give yourself the space and time you need to heal. Do not let anyone dictate how long it should take for you nor how you should heal. Let God do what God knows how to do and we will help where we can in this growing community of spiritual warriors for Christ at CHA! You can learn more about this ministry and work across multiple social platforms right on CHA's Social Media page of the website. Love and light, always!